Guest Blog­ger: Senior Dad Goes to Homework.

For many months, I’ve been cor­re­spond­ing with Stan Gold­berg, also known as Senior Dad. Stan, who lives in the Bay Area, has his own pod­cast and has many inter­views with edu­ca­tors and other experts that are well worth lis­ten­ing to. Here, he talks about his own per­spec­tive on home­work and also how he has approached the home­work prob­lem in his daughter’s K-5 pub­lic school. I love his “opt-out” proposal.

Senior Dad Goes to Home­work
by Stan Goldberg

I didn’t start look­ing at what schools were doing about home­work until my child entered kinder­garten. Being a Senior Dad gives me an unusual per­spec­tive. I get to remem­ber when I was in school (1940s-1960s), when my first two chil­dren went to school (1970s-1990s) and com­pare to today. There are dif­fer­ences. We are teach­ing sub­jects and assign­ing home­work ear­lier, and we are extend­ing children’s pro­grammed activ­ity time through after­school activ­i­ties. This can have the effect of short­en­ing the time our chil­dren can play in a care­free man­ner. We have moved up the expec­ta­tion of read­ing pro­fi­ciency, per­haps moti­vated by an anx­i­ety to score higher on stan­dard­ized testing.

Another pro­found change is com­po­si­tion of the Amer­i­can fam­ily. In my child­hood it was uncom­mon for both par­ents to work out of the house; today it is the norm. In my child­hood, sin­gle par­ent house­holds were rare but today they are not unusual. With these changes in the makeup of the fam­ily, a vari­ety of par­ent­ing styles evolved to include after­school pro­grams and child­care. Through­out it all, home­work loads kept increasing.

Dif­fer­ent par­ent­ing styles. I view my child’s learn­ing oppor­tu­ni­ties dur­ing the week­day in three sec­tions, pre­sented here in chrono­log­i­cal order. The first is when she attends school. The sec­ond is an after­school enrich­ment pro­gram (play, arts, sports). The third, fam­ily time, includes eat­ing din­ner together on most nights, play, bath, story time with a par­ent and then bed­time. Home­work just doesn’t fit in. Based on all of the research that I have read, it is not needed and doesn’t have any value. As a par­ent, I have the right to raise my child this way. How­ever, on the other end of the spec­trum there are par­ents that feel that the more home­work a child is given, the bet­ter per­son that child will become. Good study habits, time man­age­ment skills, a host of other per­ceived val­ues, along with parental dis­ci­pline, may char­ac­ter­ize this par­ent­ing style. Par­ents have a right to raise their chil­dren this way as well, and we must not tram­ple some­one else’s right while we move to secure our own.

San Fran­cisco Pub­lic School Dis­trict. In San Fran­cisco, each pub­lic school has a site coun­cil. This coun­cil has mem­bers from the com­mu­nity, teach­ers, stu­dents, and par­ents who have to con­sti­tute a major­ity of mem­bers. My child attends a K-5 school. In the early part of this school year, I brought up the sub­ject of home­work at the coun­cil meet­ings, pos­ing the ques­tion, “If the research tells us there is no value to home­work in K-5, why are we giv­ing it?” The coun­cil started dis­cussing the ques­tion. There were many dif­fer­ent points of view, depend­ing what use each per­son per­ceived home­work had and how the removal of home­work would impact their per­sonal or pro­fes­sional life. It is fair to say that this first dis­cus­sion was tense. It was decided that infor­ma­tion was needed on home­work from our par­ents and I was appointed to draft a ques­tion­naire for par­ents with the Prin­ci­pal. Dis­tri­b­u­tion of the ques­tion­naire to the coun­cil brought another flurry of intro­spec­tion. The teach­ers met sev­eral times to dis­cuss home­work, how it was being used, what was asked of the stu­dents and how it related to class­room work. There was a mini focus group on home­work dur­ing an open dis­cus­sion period for the site plan­ning con­ven­ing. The teach­ers pre­pared a ques­tion­naire in which they sub­mit­ted their views on homework.

Opt-out. In the spring the site coun­cil met again with home­work as the only agenda item. The group dis­cussed the teacher responses to the teacher ques­tion­naire and dif­fer­ent issues of par­ent rights and par­ent­ing styles. The site coun­cil rewrote the par­ent ques­tion­naire and debated each issue a ques­tion might raise. The opt-out option ques­tion devel­oped an exten­sive debate. The par­ents were told by the teach­ers present that an infor­mal opt-out pol­icy already existed at the school where a par­ent could request that any home­work assign­ment be skipped. The teach­ers there said they have never denied such a request. While that infor­ma­tion was progress and the infor­ma­tion would be passed on to all par­ents, the basic par­ent right was not rec­og­nized. Par­ents have a right to con­trol their fam­ily envi­ron­ment. That right should not have to be granted by a teacher. It is a way that teach­ers try to con­trol the fam­ily envi­ron­ment and that power belongs solely in the par­ents’ con­trol. After much dis­cus­sion a vote was taken and the opt-out ques­tion was voted out of the ques­tion­naire. Our next step will be to review the ques­tion­naire and send it out and then meet again.

Progress. I am excited by the progress. We have spent a good part of the school year eval­u­at­ing what we are doing with home­work. We have devel­oped a ten­sion free dis­cus­sion of all of the issues and everyone’s con­cerns. Change is always dif­fi­cult. We dis­cussed how an opt-out pol­icy might effect our at risk stu­dents, how chil­dren whose par­ents chose not to opt-out might feel towards those chil­dren who did opt-out. We dis­cussed how dif­fer­ent par­ents view home­work and we dis­cussed its impact on fam­ily time and the value of play. I feel that this work has strength­ened our children’s edu­ca­tion because it gave our teach­ing staff a chance to revisit how they were teach­ing and using home­work. We are not fin­ished. We are learn­ing everyone’s needs. Later we will find a way to meet everyone’s needs.

9 Comments on “Guest Blog­ger: Senior Dad Goes to Homework.”

  1. Amanda Cockshutt says:

    I loved this post! The per­spec­tive that Stan brings to the table is more than most of us can boast.

    I was inter­ested to note that the very same argu­ments were used to counter the opt-out pos­si­bil­ity as when I brought it up at my par­ent school sup­port com­mit­tee after a series of e-mails with Stan a few months ago. I think that teach­ers know that opt-out is logis­ti­cally dif­fi­cult and fun­da­men­tally unfair.

    I am glad that Stan remains so pos­i­tive about the sit­u­a­tion rather than becom­ing disenfranchised.

    May 14th, 2007 at 6:21 pm
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  2. Stan Goldberg says:

    I think the unfair­ness feel­ing may stem from the fear on a parent’s part that their child may judge them poorly as com­pared to the par­ent who grants their child an opt out. This is a legit­i­mate con­cern and per­haps it can be avoided by par­ents start­ing to use opt out as a man­age­ment tech­nique to man­age the fam­ily stress and needs level. With occa­sional use of opt out you can estab­lish with your child that you are look­ing out for them and allow the flow in the class­room to con­tinue. Every­one needs to get used to the new dynamic. All par­ents who have waited to influ­ence the home­work pat­tern need to advance slowly. It is fair for every­one to see how it effects the classroom.

    May 14th, 2007 at 7:32 pm
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  3. Amanda Cockshutt says:

    Agreed. Since the assign­ments that my lit­tle kids bring home are gen­er­ally of the type to be com­pleted that evening, I have started to use my own opt-out pro­to­col. As you indi­cated so nicely in the post, par­ents shouldn’t have to get per­mis­sion, or a dis­pen­sa­tion, from the teacher every time they think that their child need not com­plete an assign­ment. My way around that is to use a method that the teach­ers them­selves sug­gest: I write a note in the agenda. I just do it far more fre­quently than they may have expected.

    For instance, if there is a choice between rid­ing their bikes on a nice evening and doing a sheet of math I write a note and say that the work was not done because she was rid­ing her bike instead (remem­ber, this is Canada, we haven’t been able to ride since Octo­ber!), or that she chose to walk the dog instead of doing her home­work, a task more impor­tant to the child’s (and the dog’s) health than more quiet work. Or, some­times, I just write that we were read­ing “The Lord of the Rings” to the kids instead…

    In so doing, I am try­ing to get the point across to the teach­ers that there are more pro­duc­tive and inter­est­ing ways for the chil­dren to spend their time than home­work. This method also has the ben­e­fit of it being a “pri­vate” dis­cus­sion. If my kid’s home­work isn’t done, the note explains it, there need not be an open dis­cus­sion in the class­room, other kids may not even know.

    So far, none of the teach­ers have called me on it. My son now gets less than won­der­ful “grades” on the “com­pletes home­work” box on his report card. I don’t see this as a prob­lem though, because if I didn’t “encour­age” him to do it in the first place, he wouldn’t do it at all. That box is my grade not his.

    I want to thank you, Stan, for the great idea of the opt-out. Being a uni­ver­sity lec­turer I tend to get stuck on the fail­ure to com­plete an assign­ment notion, after­all, my stu­dents are going to fail if they do that. For school kids though, I think the opt-out is a non-confrontational way of mak­ing the point. It also has the very impor­tant prop­erty of not deny­ing the home­work for those par­ents who really want it.

    May 15th, 2007 at 7:56 am
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  4. Rachel says:

    I wish I could use indi­vid­ual opt-outs as described above. Actu­ally, I did some­thing sim­i­lar when my daugh­ter was in first grade. This year how­ever, her teacher smiles, nods, and returns the home­work to be com­pleted over the week­end, unless my daugh­ter chooses to stay in from recess to do it, and endure the social consequences.

    When I asked the prin­ci­pal about home­work, she said she was sure the teach­ers would ‘lis­ten respect­fully.’ I guess next year I’ll have to be more forceful.

    May 16th, 2007 at 4:51 pm
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  5. Amanda Cockshutt says:

    Teach­ers seem to vary enor­mously on this issue. I know some who act that way, keep­ing kids in at recess… Oth­ers seem to respect par­ent­lal views more. It is really hard to guage.

    I have found that more teach­ers are in fact “lis­ten­ing respect­fully”, but unfor­tu­nately this isn’t trans­lat­ing into changes in the home­work atti­tudes or behaviours.

    We just have to keep pushing!

    A

    May 17th, 2007 at 1:50 pm
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  6. Stan Goldberg says:

    The good news Rachel is that you know where they both stand. I would approach the PTA and bring up the home­work issue and sug­gest the PTA send­ing out a home­work sur­vey. Progress can only be made while every­one talks about their con­cerns. Not every teacher will wel­come a par­ent “com­ing into their area” but that is not a mod­ern view. The home envi­ron­ment is solely the par­ents area and edu­ca­tion and exchange of ideas will bring that view home (no pun intended). A suc­cess­ful sales­per­son is told no 10 times before some­one says yes

    May 18th, 2007 at 10:13 am
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  7. 3-Jane Tessier-Ashpool says:

    What’s a “prospec­tive”? I love this move­ment toward no home­work. The Indian and Korean fam­i­lies I am friends with applaud and encour­age your efforts — you are only mak­ing it eas­ier for our chil­dren to dis­tin­guish them­selves in com­par­i­son to yours. See you at the SATs…

    May 27th, 2007 at 8:53 pm
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  8. Gaylyn Bicking says:

    I teach 1st/2nd grade in a pri­vate school. Our home­work pol­icy is quite lenient com­pared to many schools. For instance we ask 1st/2nd graders to do 10 – 15 min­utes of home­work twice/week. We also ask stu­dents to read 15 minutes/night, but have no method to see if that was actu­ally done. We never grade home­work or pun­ish chil­dren for not doing homework.

    All this looks good, espe­cially in com­par­i­some to other schools, but I ques­tion even giv­ing the amount of home­work we do. Frankly we would prob­a­bly skip home­work alto­gether if it weren’t for the pres­sure par­ents give us. Most want more home­work and would be shocked to know that we teach­ers barely glance at the returned work and don’t give it much weight in assess­ing a child’s aca­d­e­mic progress.

    Some­times it is the par­ents who want the edu­ca­tional sys­tem to make the rules and raise the kids!

    Gay­lyn

    May 28th, 2007 at 9:53 am
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  9. James says:

    I came to China to work for an Amer­i­can Oil Com­pany six years ago, I can­not go home because my gov­ern­ment will not give my wife, who is Chi­nese, a visa, how­ever, it has been a bless­ing in disguise.

    I have two chil­dren now, my old­est is six, he goes to kinder­garten here, and LOVES home­work, he already under­stands the con­cept of chal­leng­ing him­self and and build­ing char­ac­ter through learn­ing and discipline.

    He loves learn­ing, and excels in read­ing, math, and lan­guage his math skills are incred­i­ble he can solve addi­tion and sub­trac­tion prob­lems with unknown vari­bles such as; 17+ _ — 5 = 22
    and loves to do logic prob­lems, these skills and work habits will last him a life­time, and will be invaluable!

    Do you think I would want to take him home and put him in L.A. Unified ?

    STOP the mad­ness peo­ple, Amer­i­cans are more and more looked upon as the least edu­cated peo­ple in the world ! with the 3 R’s, the Amer­i­cans I meet here through my work can­not write well, do not know eng­lish gram­mar, or math, but are very good at “club­bin” not a pop­u­lar activ­ity here, so who cares.

    We are build­ing our future TODAY!

    May 29th, 2007 at 9:30 pm
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