“Kinder­garten Cram”

Yesterday’s New York Times Mag­a­zine had a great arti­cle, Kinder­garten Cram, about the prob­lems with today’s kinder­gartens. One of my favorite lines: “How was it that the same cou­ples who piously pro­claimed that 3½-year-old Junior was not “devel­op­men­tally ready” to use the potty were drilling him on flashcards?”

Here’s the begin­ning of the article:

About a year ago, I made the cir­cuit of kinder­gartens in my town. At each stop, after the pitch by the prin­ci­pal and the oblig­a­tory exhibit of art projects only a mother (the student’s own) could love, I asked the same ques­tion: “What is your pol­icy on homework?”

And always, whether from the apple-cheeked teacher in the pub­lic school or the earnest admin­is­tra­tor of the “child cen­tered” pri­vate one, I was met with an eager nod. Oh, yes, each would explain: kinder­gart­ners are assigned home­work every day.

Bzzzzzzt. Wrong answer.

Read the rest of the arti­cle here.

10 Comments on ““Kinder­garten Cram””

  1. Kat says:

    Great arti­cle.

    Kinder­garten has become such a source of stress for so many par­ents. There are so many par­ents I know that strug­gle with the whole idea of “kinder­garten readi­ness”. My son had to go to a screen­ing at the school to see if he was “ready”. The whole idea just flab­ber­gasted me, I mean wasn’t kinder­garten the place where we used to “get ready”? The only thing we used to have to do was learn to show up every­day and share and sit in our seats. Many of my son’s preschool peers (espe­cially the boys) were held back by their well-meaning par­ents. And maybe they were the smarter ones, I don’t know. It means that my son is now dis­con­nected from many of his friends, and that he is in a class with many kids that are a year older than him and always will be. We didn’t have that option — my son was going to start on time because I didn’t have the finan­cial resources to con­tinue pay­ing for full-time care.

    I refused to do any home­work with him in kinder­garten and thank­fully his teacher didn’t assign much and also respected my opin­ion on that.

    First grade is fairly gru­el­ing. I’m look­ing for­ward the sum­mer so we can have our evenings back. I can’t wait to see the work­load in 2nd grade. In the mean­time, my kid is still only 6!

    May 4th, 2009 at 8:02 am
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  2. PsychMom says:

    Funny…back when school was sane, they used to ask par­ents of chil­dren enter­ing kinder­garten if the child was toi­let trained. That was the min­i­mum expected. Now they ask what books they read, if they know all their colours, let­ters and can at least count to 10. Oh and can they write their name too?

    I thought that was what kinder­garten was for?
    It wasn’t meant to be rig­or­ous. And there cer­tainly was never any “testing”.

    May 4th, 2009 at 8:25 am
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  3. FedUpMom says:

    I would like to see some real sta­tis­tics on par­ents’ atti­tudes to the achieve­ment of young chil­dren. I don’t know any­one who used flash cards with their 3 1/2 year old child. And I just can’t believe that schools have increased home­work because of pres­sure from par­ents. Speak­ing as a par­ent who has tried and failed to have an influ­ence on my local pub­lic schools, I can tell you that it is unbe­liev­ably dif­fi­cult for a par­ent to make her voice heard.

    I feel that there’s an urban leg­end about pushy par­ents dri­ving their kids too hard. Do such par­ents exist? Sure, but how many? I’m tired of hear­ing par­ents blamed for prob­lems in the schools, when we have no real voice and no real influ­ence. And of course, when we com­plain about “par­ents”, we all know it’s really the mother we’re criticizing.

    I feel that line of Peggy Orenstein’s about the par­ents with the flash cards is irre­spon­si­ble. Did it really hap­pen, or is she just plug­ging in to an urban leg­end for some cheap yuks?

    If I had tried flash cards with my kids at that age, one would have burst into tears and the other would have eaten the flash cards. (Hmm … a good source of fiber?)

    May 4th, 2009 at 9:14 am
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  4. PsychMom says:

    I don’t know FedupMom…I’ve known an aca­d­e­mic who used flash cards on her young chil­dren. And I have heard more than once that a par­ent wants their chil­dren to have good daycare/preschool, not just send their kids to ones where the kids just “play”. Heaven for­bid a child should just “play”. They aren’t learn­ing any­thing that way.

    And a few months ago when our school had a par­ent dis­cus­sion night on the topic of home­work, some par­ents thought anar­chy would ensue if fam­i­lies were allowed to opt out of home­work. It doesn’t seem to mat­ter how much actual evi­dence you give them. Some par­ents hold strong to the belief that kids will be slack­ers and unpre­pared if they do not do homework.

    All I can visu­al­ize is that par­ents see their chil­dren as mus­tangs that need to be bro­ken. They are doomed to be pack horses and the sooner they get used to it, the eas­ier it’ll be for every­one. It’s so sad.

    May 4th, 2009 at 9:30 am
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  5. Kat says:

    I think par­ents push home­work (and flash cards and potty train­ing.… ) because they have been made to feel that if they don’t, they are fail­ing their chil­dren. I have sat in a gazil­lion school meet­ings (my son has an IEP, so I have more meet­ings than the aver­age par­ent) and I can tell you that teach­ers and admin­is­tra­tors are pros at mak­ing you feel that if you make alter­nate sug­ges­tions to their sug­ges­tions (espe­cially sug­ges­tions that decrease work­load) that you are a bad par­ent. I just think that is dirty pool, manip­u­lat­ing par­ents by mak­ing them feel like bad par­ents if you don’t.

    Fedup­mom — I also did not like that line. I ignored it, and went on. But, yea, it seemed to be for effect. Over­all, I am not a fan of the direc­tion kinder­garten is tak­ing and I thought the arti­cle spoke to that.

    May 4th, 2009 at 10:50 am
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  6. Ian Williams says:

    Great blog! Just made a sim­i­lar case on my own site, albeit with lots more profanity:

    http://​www​.xtcian​.com/​a​r​c​h​/​0​0​3​1​0​3​.​php

    May 4th, 2009 at 3:10 pm
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  7. sg says:

    As a kinder­garten teacher (don’t shoot me) pol­icy and cur­ricu­lum is not set by the teacher and many times not by the school, but by stan­dards set by the state and fed­eral gov­ern­ment. I agree that we are overtest­ing and not giv­ing chil­dren enough “free” time. We do not even get “recess” for our kinder­gart­ners. What kind of social skills are we giv­ing them? What adult wants to go some­where for a meeting/educational activ­ity with­out much of any­thing but a bath­room break in 3 – 4 hours? This is what many kinder­garten­ers face. I am proud of the par­ent that “checked” out the school she was send­ing her child to and their poli­cies. Most of my par­ents are not even aware of no recess in our schools.…. We are burn­ing out our kids on read­ing before 2nd grade because we are not teach­ing the LOVE of read­ing but attach­ing a test every time they read a book. The teach­ers do not have con­trol. Par­ents need to get involved and push for change. Teach­ers would lose their jobs if they didn’t do what is con­sid­ered their job “the way the stan­dards” make them teach.…..

    May 5th, 2009 at 6:11 pm
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  8. Tracy says:

    You bring up some great points about how we need to reori­ent the way we think about teach our young students.

    May 13th, 2009 at 12:22 pm
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  9. Anonymous says:

    I too teach kinder­garten and cringe at the things we are required to teach and test our chil­dren on! I know it is not devel­op­men­tal appro­pri­ate, yet my hands are tied in some areas and I have no choice. My only sav­ing grace is in the way I present it! Our kids are going to grad­u­ate from school and be able to pass a mul­ti­tude of tests, but they will have lost their desire to know more, search deeper and we as parents/educators/administrators will have damp­ened their desire to be life long learn­ers! We have for­got­ten the famous quote– “Child­hood should be a jour­ney, not a race!” And all for the sake of a test score! Shame on us!

    August 24th, 2009 at 10:36 pm
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  10. PsychMom says:

    In my pro­fes­sion, the expec­ta­tion is that I do things that are con­sis­tent with the pro­fes­sional ethics of my dis­ci­pline. My knowl­edge base is expected to be cur­rent, and my skills are not allowed to stag­nate. If I were required to do some­thing by my employer that goes against what is con­sid­ered “best prac­tices” in my pro­fes­sion, I’m in trou­ble and I’m oblig­ated to say what my pro­fes­sional respon­si­bil­i­ties are.

    Teach­ers are sup­posed to be the experts in rela­tion to the edu­ca­tion of chil­dren. We par­ents rely on your judge­ment. If you know that test­ing kinder­garten­ers is devel­op­men­tally inap­pro­pri­ate, why are teach­ers not band­ing together and say­ing “This is inap­pro­pri­ate and we can­not morally and eth­i­cally par­tic­i­pate”. I’m sorry but I can’t just accept that your hands are tied.

    If you were to come to me for my pro­fes­sional ser­vice, wouldn’t you expect me to know the best cur­rent prac­tices of my profession?

    August 25th, 2009 at 7:48 am
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