Stu­dent Made His Home­work Optional

A few weeks ago, I read a story in exam​iner​.com, about a stu­dent, now 25, and a cum-laude grad­u­ate from col­lege, who made his home­work optional, both in high school and in college.

Intrigued, I emailed his mother, Julia Rhodes, to find out a lit­tle more. She told me that her son, who had been diag­nosed with a learn­ing dis­abil­ity when he was young, was “smart as a whip,” but strug­gled in school. His grades in ele­men­tary school reflected his refusal to do home­work and when he went to high school, he decided that he would nego­ti­ate a deal so that he wouldn’t have to do home­work. “A great com­mu­ni­ca­tor,” her son talked to his teach­ers and made deals with them. He told them he would help them, tutor other stu­dents, and do well on his tests, but that he just couldn’t face doing the “mun­dane, day-to-day work.” And his teach­ers, eager to keep the per­son­able ath­lete in their Sonora, Cal­i­for­nia, high school, agreed. Even through col­lege, her son nego­ti­ated deals with teachers.

Rhodes, a sin­gle mother and a teacher for many years, instilled in her son “the belief that he could do any­thing. I didn’t care about his grades,” she told me. “Not every­one has to be an A stu­dent. I’d seen too many dri­ven kids, and they weren’t happy or pas­sion­ate about what they were doing. I just wanted my son to believe in him­self and I helped him learn how to advo­cate for himself.”

4 Comments on “Stu­dent Made His Home­work Optional”

  1. PsychMom says:

    Inter­est­ing approach. I read the exam­iner piece. My con­cern is that some­thing still had to be bar­gained for to get this kid out of home­work. He had to promise to par­tic­i­pate in class, study and do well on tests. Well.….? Isn’t that what all kids are sup­posed to do any­way in a class­room owned and oper­ated by a good teacher?
    Aren’t those reg­u­lar com­po­nents of being a pupil?

    If it’s not, then are the teach­ers say­ing that they can talk to lumps all day as long as the lumps sit at home for 3 hours each night doing home­work? Geez is school really that bad these days?

    I must be really spoiled at our school.

    June 12th, 2009 at 10:24 am
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  2. Arnie says:

    I have never thought of this approach before. I guess a stu­dent could con­tract to either be expected to do it or con­tracted to not have to do it and have the grade cal­cu­lated with­out it.

    My grade­book pro­gram (required by my school) would choke on this dual sys­tem, so I will have to think about a workaround.

    June 12th, 2009 at 1:35 pm
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  3. HomeworkBlues says:

    You go, Arnie! Thanks for the will­ing­ness to think out­side the box.

    June 12th, 2009 at 4:51 pm
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  4. Julia says:

    It was my son who nego­ti­ated his way through school and it was not an easy road to walk. Not every teacher agreed to work with him and he did have to do some “home­work”- When he did do “home­work”, it was usu­ally mean­ing­ful and or required to pass the class at min­i­mum. He had a’s b’s, c’s and d’s as well as incom­plete assign­ments in high school. How­ever, he man­aged more effec­tively in col­lege — He had assign­ments that he “had to do” and he did them when it was nec­es­sary. That is how life works too. We all know there are “teach­ers” that col­lect a pay check and then there are the teach­ers that change lives —  teach­ing us how to sur­vive in the real world. Most chil­dren know the dif­fer­ence as do their par­ents. I was excited when he found his pas­sion while in school, pur­sued his dream and now has a job doing what he loves!!! My advice to par­ents is to lis­ten to your children-be sup­port­ive and work with the teach­ers. Cre­ate a great team to get through “the sys­tem”. Also we learned that not all “home­work” is “bad”. Actu­ally “home­work” has a neg­a­tive rep­u­ta­tion but here are some great assign­ments out there that add value to a les­son and to life. It is the “mun­dane and sense­less” home­work that needs to go. Best advice I can give from my expe­ri­ence is “Teach your chil­dren to believe in them­selves, stand up for what is right and make the world a bet­ter place because they are in it”.

    June 15th, 2009 at 12:51 pm
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