Rosie Scribble, a freelance writer in the U.K. who specializes in mental health issues and blogs about life with her 6 year old, wrote a wonderful piece about why she doesn’t make her daughter do homework. Many of the commenters also wrote that they didn’t make their children do homework, either. Now, if they could all inspire their friends and their friends’ friends, etc., homework for young children would no longer exist (after all, most elementary school children require some kind of parental involvement to get their homework done).
I Have Banned My Child from Doing Homework
by Rosie Scribble
Sometimes I get a bit hot under the collar, stamp my foot and decide that whatever I have been told to do – I’m not doing it.
Then I wonder why my six-year-old daughter does the same.
However today, once again, I have decided there are a few things that our little family will not be doing, for one day at least.
Here’s the list:
- I.J. [my daughter] will not be doing any homework
I.J. will not be watching Newsround
I.J. will not be looking at her school reading book
I will not be discussing keywords and spellings with I.J.
I will not be testing her on her addition and multiplication
I will not be helping her to practise her alphabet
We will not be doing anything related in any way to education
We shall only be doing fun things
Why?
Because a mother knows when her child is under stress, when she has had enough and is over-tired and over-sensitive, when being asked to watch the news will only add to her current anxieties, when number work at school is getting her down to the point where she can’t sleep at night, when the pressure to practise her reading every night is getting her down, when it is all becoming too much.
A mother knows when her child needs a night off, a break from it all, and when a dose of fun takes priority over homework.
So here’s what we will do instead:
- We’ll close the curtains, turn off the lights and turn the front room into a cinema
We’ll watch a brand new DVD, possibly Cloudy with a chance of Meatballs as recommended by A Modern Mother
We’ll eat party food followed by chocolate cake
We’ll cuddle up on the sofa
We’ll shut out the rest of the world
We’ll forget about school
We’ll forget about everything else
We’ll have some fun
And I’ll hope for a calmer more relaxed child tomorrow.
Stop Homework 
Many thanks for the mention, Sara. My post certainly got people thinking and it was interesting to hear their views. Many felt primary school children were getting far too much homework. They get tested over year in school aged 6 so that might be one reason why. I don’t think formal tests like that should exist but that’s a whole other debate!
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I really needed this — thank you! I am going to institute a day like that in our house!!
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Oh it’s nice to know there are some sane parents around. My child is 8 and I absolutely cringe when she says she’s got work to do at home….mostly I do it for her unless we can make some sort of game out of it that’s quick and done. It’s such an offence really. I object to the pressure placed on the kids at such a young age. She was so happy to report to me the other night that her “Unfinished Work” file was empty at school. Why should an 8 year old need to feel a burden that follows adults practically their whole working lives?
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I fantastic idea. My daughter (10 yrs old) is autistic and doesn’t get homework because she can’t cope with it. She’s done enough work at school – home is for home life. This should be the case for all children until they need to start studying of course.
Fabulous post from Rosie, as always.
Crystal Jigsaw
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that is a great idea the kids wil love it
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I understand that homework is stressful, but that’s not really teaching responsibility is it? We all hate the homework but How is telling your kid its ok to NOT do what your teacher asked you to do, but instead eat cake and watch tv.?? Trust me, I have 2 kids so I know what you are talking about. But my oldest child now in the 5th grade comes home, and does her homework without asking. Its only going to get harder and you won’t be able to ban homework forever. You’re only hurting your child.
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“How is telling your kid its ok to NOT do what your teacher asked you to do, but instead eat cake and watch tv.??”
Oh, boy, you really don’t get it, do you? And you say you have two kids. Looks like you have a lot to learn yourself.
My gosh, we don’t come on this blog to complain, tell our kids not to listen to the teacher, eat cake and watch tv. My family doesn’t even own a tv! Do you truly believe you are completely incapable of teaching your children any responsibility? Is the state raising your child or are you?
And homework overload isn’t about teaching responsibility. The home has become the dumping ground for all that wasn’t covered during the school day, under the guise of “rigor” and “responsibility.”
It’s not about defiance. Who are we defying? We are not little subjects, we are intelligent mothers and fathers here. We are adults in charge of our home life. It’s about our children having time to sink their souls into classic literature all afternoon, it’s about taking them to a museum, a nature center, having political discussions at the dinner table that go on for hours, it’s about raising and growing ethical intellectual happy children.
Those are my motives, my raison d’être. That’s why I came on board. It’s watching hyper-achieving teens lose their love of learning, grovel for grades and treat high school like a giant hoop to jump through.
It’s about finally saying The emperor has no clothes. It’s about decrying that we are using a factory model of education that calls to mind schools of the 1950’s. It’s not about being insolent and defying the teacher but working together (or die trying) to create new schools that work for today and tomorrow, not yesterday.
It’s doing something new, something that hasn’t really been done before. It’s involving the parents instead of ordering them around. It’s about respecting families instead of belittling parents, particularly mothers. It’s about rooting out a desiccated curriculum, designed not to inspire and ignite a passion for learning, but to raise test scores. It’s about teachers today who seem to care more about saving their hide than educating.
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And homework overload isn’t about teaching responsibility. The home has become the dumping ground for all that wasn’t covered during the school day, under the guise of “rigor” and “responsibility.”
NO it hasn’t. Its called a review of what they were taught that day or week. Preparing for tests so they get good grades. Yes, I have 2 kids and I do Get It! I didn’t post that I couldn’t teach my kids responsibility. I posted that defying a teachers assignment IS not being responsible.
We all have a right to our opinion… sorry that what I posted isn’t that same as yours. You should know that not everyone that would happen to find this sight wouldn’t agree. And No, I’m not a teacher.
We’ll close the curtains, turn off the lights and turn the front room into a cinema
We’ll watch a brand new DVD, possibly Cloudy with a chance of Meatballs as recommended by A Modern Mother
We’ll eat party food followed by chocolate cake
We’ll cuddle up on the sofa
We’ll shut out the rest of the world
We’ll forget about school
We’ll forget about everything else
We’ll have some fun
And I’ll hope for a calmer more relaxed child tomorrow.
And I do all those things after homework is done
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Lovely evening you describe there. Shouldn’t be a problem after six hours of homework.
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Anonymous says:
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But my oldest child now in the 5th grade comes home, and does her homework without asking.
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Anonymous, my question for you is, is there any situation that would cause you to say “enough already!”? For instance, what if your child became deeply depressed, had out-of-control crying jags, and started saying that she hates school? How about if the homework took up 4 hours a night, no matter how diligently your child worked at it? Would you still make her do all the work?
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Exactly, Fed Up. Because we have been there. And there comes a point at which you say, enough is enough. And if a teacher demands that level of compliance, at all costs, takes no prisoners, there comes a point where you take over, you call the shots, because it’s your home, your rules.
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“I posted that defying a teachers assignment IS not being responsible”
Please let’s not look at this as defiance and insubordination. Doing so has a distinct air of control, power and disdain. It’s disrespectful to parents and treats them like underlings. This is not the way you should perceive your role as parent.
Schools like to call education a partnership. A partnership implies cooperation, dialogue, respect. Name calling has no place in this conversation.
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A lightbulb went off in my head this weekend.
Last week my middle school son had a standardized test one day, and he had no homework the night before. They never have homework the night before standardized tests. I recall a few notes sent home in the past about “we want your kids to be well-rested before the test tomorrow…”
It finally dawned on me: the schools *know* that homework is disruptive and that it leaves kids ill-prepared for the next day because they never get a chance to recharge. But they don’t care except when it affects them.
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Yes, on days when there is something important going on in the evenings that involves the children and their attendence at some school function, we parents get the message that we MUST pick up our children early, so they can eat supper and have a rest before they come back. But again, there’s the implication that the teachers have to tell us parents that their students, (our children) need rest, or else we dim parents might not know this.
It is interesting.
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Matthew, our public schools do the exact same thing — no homework the week(s) of the tests, and that’s 2 to 3 weeks most years.
Absolutely right, when they actually care about the students’ performance, they ensure the kids get sleep by banning homework.
One of my daughter’s friends, who attends the middle school my daughter would have attended if we hadn’t run screaming from the public schools, says she likes the standardized tests for just that reason. They’re a break from the usual school routine, and there’s no homework!
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My child was so depressed about her homework, the thing is i dont have the time to help her when she gets stuch and she has moody fits and crys her eyes out. her teacher had a go at her because she hadnt done homework that she hadnt been told about…she was very upset about this because she was ill that week and she had her back tooth pulled out, her teacher has NO sympathy.
Can we ban this stressful thing called homework???
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I think its great that this mom has given her kid a break but homework is still very important and kids should be developing good homework habits from a young age. I’m 16 myself and I wish I had been prepared for the huge projects and homework assignments that I have to deal with now. Sure you want your kids to have fun while they can but planning homework out and teaching them to time manage now is a very important skill that they will need for the future. For instance I was never really given homework at my old schools, and never really had any tests etc., but now that I look back i wish i had because now in college they have overloaded us and I am not really prepared. So in a way those little tests and homework tasks teachers are giving your kids in primary school are not such a bad thing, because your kids will learn to time manage and when they get to college like me they will be prepared. Hope this helped.
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And I can see its been tough with your kids becoming stressed and the teachers having a go at them because they haven’t done their homework, but this is the world we live in. Filled with stress, grades and money. Its all money, money, money. Because I mean this is what its all about in the first place isn’t it. Ideally we all want well payed jobs so we can live in this crazy world, where everything is getting so expensive. And at the basis of it all is education, who does their homework , who gets the degree. So really we all wish, well i wish, that homework wasn’t a necessity and that kids learnt because what they were learning was beautiful, what they are learning is compelling but it is not this way and in the words of homework blues: teens lose their love of learning, grovel for grades and treat high school like a giant hoop to jump through. Everything is just messed up and our kids are at the center of it. They are growing into a world filled with a horrible media that sends across messages to the public that have no meaning. Buy this, buy that. Or the stressful lives adults have at work and then school with the build up of homework. So really this mom Rosie is right by giving her kid a break from the nonsensical world of stress and “you have to do your homework!”. Because there are more important things in life than homework and what society is doing to our kids is just wrong. They are making them grow up into paranoid adults that only see the material things in life, money, degrees etc. And thats not what life should be about. No we should be telling our kids that life is about being with family and having fun, making memories for yourself.
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And I should know because I’m a kid, growing up in a society overcrowded with these things. It just makes me wish that our world had not escalated to this, what we call “progress”. With all this new technology, everybody needs the latest apple whatever. And it all branches to what we are teaching our kids our next generation. So don’t stress your kids out with homework, give them a break once in a while. Sure you need to teach them time management and responsibility but don’t let these schools overload them. Don’t let them get to a point where they are so stressed they can’t sleep, because they have not done some stupid assignment. But what do i know right I’m just a kid. I cannot even begin to fathom what is happening here with this homework “situation”. But I do know one thing, that going through these years of pointless exams and homework assignments has taught me, that there is more to life than grades. And that the stress homework creates is just one little pebble in the riverbed that we call “modern society”.
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Honestly, I dont think this is such a great idea. I have an eighth grader who is taking 3 high school credit classes. She comes home with about 3 hours of homework a night. If she doesnt get it done her entire gpa is lowered and she wont pass the class. If I didnt make her do her homework when she was little, she would still think it was ok to just not do any homework, which it’s not. She is very stressed out alot and I agree it’s alot to handle, but on Fridays she gets all of her homework done that night, and yes she also has homework on weekends, then we have a relaxing weekend and we all (me, my daughter, my 3rd grade son, and my husband) reward ourselves for working hard this week. We order out for pizza, rent a movie, pop some popcorn, and just relax. Or sometimes we’ll all go out for a fun day, rollerskating and bowling, or movies and park. But anyways, there are ways to relieve stress without teaching your child it’s ok to take shortcuts and skip homework. Trust me those habits will continue and then, when it really matters, it will be much harder work, and alot more of it, and your child will think it’s ok to skip out on it. You should probably try to find other ways to help your daughter relieve her stress.
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Crystal:
Would you take a job where, at the interview, they told you that you have to work on work related tasks every night at home..for free? Would you take a job where they told you to forgo all family time for sake of the “Company”?
Yes, corporate executives take jobs like that. But they get paid handsomely to do it. Children get nothing. They have no choice or control and the content of what they are made to do is usually dull.
This mindset that suffering first leads to greater riches is really bizarre….How about living a balanced happy life? Maybe that really leads to more of the same.
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But if you still take the job, weather or not they pay you for doing that overtime at home, you do it. because that’s your job. a kids job is to go to school, work hard, and make a future for themselves. I’m not saying kid’s homework isn’t fun, because i agree, it’s dull and my kids hate it. but there are certain things i hate about my job. that doesnt mean I’m not going to do them. Living a happy balanced life is possible without skipping out on necessary work. It may not seem fair, but some things just arent. What all of you are doing isn’t going to prepare your kids at all. One day your kids arent going to be kids and they won’t be in school anymore, it’s just going to be the real world. And their job might require a little extra effort. maybe some days they have to take a little work home with them, my job requires it, and I don’t get payed for it. When it’s your kids they’ll think it’s ok to skip out on that work when it’s too stressful for them. But that will not put them in a good place with their boss. Things aren’t always fun, but you just have to suck it up, get it done, and then you feel so much better having your work done with.
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Crystal, I really don’t agree. Life contains plenty of unpleasant chores already — why should we go out of our way to invent more?
If homework doesn’t help our kids learn, and I mean learn actual subjects like math or history, not fake subjects like “study habits”, there is just no point. I don’t want to spend a big chunk of my kids’ childhood forcing them to do tasks that have no purpose besides demonstrating compliance.
Childhood is short. Why should our kids spend their childhood stressed out and anxious over useless homework?
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I have literally changed my work schedule to get home an hour earlier because of my son’s homework. He’s in 1st grade, and he has 30 minutes or more of homework every night, and he’s not daydreaming here. They give us a big packet of work every Monday (sometimes Tuesday) and it has to be turned in Friday.
So I try to pick him up a little early so he can have a little snack and work on his packet, and then we can relax before dinner. Without that extra hour, I have to oversee the homework while I make dinner, which is stressful.
It’s tough for working parents; we’re tired too and don’t want to spend our time with our kids fighting about homework. So we as a family literally lose $100 a week so we can be relaxed in the evenings. If it wasn’t for homework, I could leave an hour later and still chat with my son while making dinner.
That’s reality and it’s part of being a parent, but I don’t know if schools truly realize the impact homework has on family life.
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My daughter is home again! from school, I belive this is is because she is exausted. PC is age 7 and has what I think is far to much homework, they are in school all day and then when they get home most of her time is taken with homework. I dont think they shouldnt have any, but shouldnt we remember they are young children and have there adult life to work work work! Yes i think they need to learn that work has to be done, but please, someone give them a break. they need some free time. No doubt ill have a letter telling me she has a poor attendance next.
Hard working, buisness running, mum (Bristol)
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All I have to say if that my daughter’s homeowork takes her from 3:30 to around 11:00
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Actually…..I’m a 11 year old boy..hehe..and I can’t believe that I still said “boo”to the mother even though I hate homework and schools……
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Usually…I do homework in my school bus,I have friends to do with and I don’t really like to do it in bus because I’m morning session and always get tired…So,I decided to do it in bus when it’s nessasarily!
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I applaud this in some ways- I guess it just seems silly to me to have to ban homework once a week for a six year old. But perhaps that is the problem! Six year olds have too much homework, so that only shows how crazy it gets with age.
At a college age, I’m finding myself burnt out and tired from being in high school. With my college being set up in the same manner (stupid, eh?), I’, sick of it and ready to cry myself to sleep every night. Is this really what it takes to be a respective, well rounded citizen?
I just want to do something with my hands and prove that I am capable of actually producing SOMETHING. I don’t care if it’s making a puddle- I just want to do it and be good at it, rather than learning things that have little relevancy past the class I am taking in regard to the subject.
Why can’t that be the way? Instead of homework, which supposedly only reinforces the ideas that make us good people (when really it just makes us angry, crazy and depressed).
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I wish I could do the same… ban my son from doing his homework. My son, who attends a french school, and has to write in french cursive is under a lot of stress, and overwhelmed by daily homework copying texts, preparing dictation math, etc he simply refuses to do his homework, argues, protests, threatens for hours… as long as I don’t mention homework he is happy as soon As I say come one let’s do the homework , our home becomes a battle ground. he doesn’t understand why he has to do it, since he just came home from school having written those same words or solved those same math problems in the classroom-copy-book… at the beginning I was not pressuring him then i was summoned to a meeting with the teacher and coordinator… I was warned that if I don’t make my son do his homework he will go on to have very bad handwriting throughout his life. I told them but he is just in grade one… encourage him, motivate him be patient…they wouldn’t have any of it… they said this is the French methode… I envy you. Good luck. I will follow your posts.. and get inspired. Thank you.
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This is absolute music to my ears!! I have been finding homework a constant form of stress. Stress that I impose on my 6 year old. Mainly due to the expectations I have of him. I think that because I understand, then he should. Of course I have this all wrong and really this stress is probably making it all the harder for him to understand what he needs to learn. We have homework 4 nights a week. It’s supposed to be fun, but what it all boils down to is, well, it’s HOMEWORK. So, I’m taking the day off. Blow it, he’s 6!!! and if I’m less stressed, guaranteed we’ll probably get more done in the 3 days of homework that we will be doing. Hurray, somehow I’m feeling alot less stressed now and since I broke the ‘homework free night’ to him, he’s smiling alot too.
thank you thank you thank you…..
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This is the stupidest argument I have ever seen. I am one in three children, all of which now attend grammar schools; I can honestly say that if my parents hadn’t pushed me to do my homework I wouldn’t have achieved nearly as much as I have today. By teaching your child that it is ok not to do homework, she will suffer greatly in the future. You’re only ruining her future.
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I like homework but hate it at the same time but i want a good job when i am older so i will do plus i don’t like being told off
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i hate it hate it hate it
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my child does not get homework at her infant school she is 7
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my 8year old kid comes home with homewok i dom’t like it
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I’m a child of four and I’m getting tired of my life.
I do study lots and want a a good job in the future, but my mother has banned me from the internet, my video games and is threatening that she will ban TV.
I am only aloud on these at weekends and holidays such as today, Bank Holiday Monday. I was fine with it at the start. I had plenty of books to read and I tried to earn money to buy video games at possible times. After a while, though, I finished my books and learned that there was no point to earn money for something I am only allowed to enjoy, limited. I soon was bored and weekdays seemed to drag on and weekends go by too quick. Nothing was fun. I have resorted to making a plan for my weekends. Now, when I’m playing my video games and having fun, the unsettling thought of going back to the boring weekday routine rested in my head. My mother’s goal was to make me a better person, but right now, she has just made me await everything in life and basically ruin all my fun. I say to this mother, being too kind is too far. I would be a perfectly happy child, with a bit of freedom, but some boundaries too. But know, my life is hollow.
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As adults we work an eight hour day, and come home to take care of our families. It is very rare that I ever have to bring my work home. Why do we expect our children to go to school for 8 hours, then sit at the table doing work for several more? It disrupts the whole household, especially now that they have changed the way they teach so I can’t even help my child! She asks for help, and I do my best, but she ends up in trouble the next day because she didn’t do the math problems correctly. She gets the correct answer, it’s just not the way THAT teacher wants the work done. I feel helpless, she feels helpless, and the teacher thinks I’m ignorant. I’m at my wittsend!!!
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You feel ignorant but it’s not your job to teach the lesson. That was the teacher’s job.
There are those here who assume that if we don’t like homework at the kitchen table that eats up our afternoons, weekends and holidays, that we are not serious about learning. My job is to encourage, promote a love of learning, create and academically and creatively enriching household. NOT to be an involuntary unpaid teacher’s aide.
Not important, you ARE important. There is so much you can be teaching your child when you have her. But you can’t do your job because you’re too busy doing the school’s.
Let the teacher teach this child math. You can ask daughter what she learned in math today, you can ask her about her math problems, you can do fun math games with her, whatever you choose. That’s what home life is supposed to be. But sending home material your daughter does not understand and expect you to teach, correct and demand school compliance is not in your job description. It’s in the school’s.
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** create AN academically… Not AND.
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I haven’t banned homework for just a night, i’ve thrown my sons homework books away, and my god it feels soooooooooooo good!!!
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Exactly. We have a school life, that’s fine, but when school starts to take away my social life, and my friends and my family I get mad. It’s messed up, I want to stop but that would be more stressful, teachers will yell parents will get called. I want to scream and cry. I’m not kidding I’m crying and not just from stress but lack of sleep, and I feel so confined. My conversation with my friends is always the same:
Friend: hey
Me: hi
Friend: Do you wanna hang out tomorow?
Me: no, we have school.
Friend: I mean after school.
Me: after school we have after school A.K.A homework.
Friend: what about this weekend?
Me: yeah right, the teachers giving us a break…
Friend: it’s almost summer break, how ’bout then?
Me: that’s my only time with family, I’m going on vacation.
My point is we have no life. I’m an A student and I NEED to do something rebeious about this messed up thing called homework.
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“This is the stupidest argument I have ever seen… I can honestly say that if my parents hadn’t pushed me to do my homework I wouldn’t have achieved nearly as much as I have today.”
This is so true. Coming from a 10th grader with 7 to 12 hours of homework each night, I can say that I needed to be pushed when younger. Some point in middle school, I finally became organized, wanted to make good grades. Despite all our complaints, I think if I really tried, I could probably get even more homework done at school. I just prefer to take the time to socialize and end up paying for it at a later time, usually with less time to sleep.
I know it sounds rough, and it is some days, but life isn’t fair. To me, those of you who forbid your children (or even don’t encourage them! What child would take it upon themselves to do homework at such a young age?) not to do homework sound like you’re saying ‘Life is unfair, so let’s let ourselves be killed.’ That might be overly harsh, but in the society we have, if you want to do anything of true importance, about 80% of it requires college, or at minimun, high grades, hard classes, extracriculars, or *at least* require effort in high school. It shapes the rest of our lives, no matter how much we like or dislike the system. However, deny the child the chance to get in the habit of ‘just doing it,’ they are started down a path that does not care about education. Wrong or not, we have put everyone in the hands of the education system, and we need to enforce respect for it at a young age. There is always a transition from compliance because someone with authority said so to doing it yourself because you know the importance. During this time, if a kid doesn’t have that habit, guess who will be getting the C and which people will be getting an A? It’s a joke how C’s are called average. It’s shameful to have low B at our school, and the majority of people that call themselves smart will consistsntly have middle or high A’s.
That’s all the time I have to try to convince you lot. You know why? Because I’m going to get up and study for my AP World History quiz.
I know I may sound bitter or annoyed at some points during this, but please do take my words into consideration. Don’t hurt your child’s future- help them keep more job options open than manual labor and monotonous jobs that can be replaced by robots by 2025.
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Banning you child from homework is not going to help. You say your kid has to do 5 hours a day homework? Then all the other kids in the same classroom have the same homework as her but they finish it and don’t complain. If your child is exausted from the homework you can enroll your kid in Enhanced School Profile (ESP). Lots of schools have it, or move her to a special school where she will be helped and she will recieve lots of attention. She will do better in school then. After my homework is finished, I usually go to the park, read, watch a movie, call someone or go outside. You have no feeling of acomplishment after, if you don’t finish your homework. And trust me; the feeling of acomplishment is AMAZING. All I say: IF YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO BE SUCCESFUL IN LIFE LATER ON, MAKE HER DO HER HOMEWORK AND MAKE HER STDY HARD. YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT. EVEN IF SHE COMPLAINS, YOU LOVE HER SO MAKE HER HAVE A GOOD LIFE. DON’T BACK OFF ON YOUR RESPONSIBILITES!!!!!
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Okay, I need a vent and I can’t vent to my mom because my harpy aunts are over there right now. I have an 11 year old son about to be 12, and he just entered middle school (6th grade USA) this year. Of course, I think my husband and I both were prepared for the workload to get tougher on him, but so far what I have seen since the beginning of September has been ridiculous. My son is expected to do for homework things that have not even been reviewed in class, and dare I say, none of the assignments given for homework (from his history teacher in particular) seem grade nor age appropriate. Tonight, I had to help him with, no scratch that, DO, his work on the “Political, social, and economic benefits of the EU and significant issues and problems found in this model.” These are high brow topics and how can a kid this age even have an appropriate understanding of such political issues? Of course, this hasn’t been covered in class and I don’t have a degree in history or education for that matter…so off my son and I went for two hours in the magical land of Wikipedia…
Here, in our case is the issue of these old and tenured teachers who aren’t going to give two craps if you say the work is too hard for this level. They want to shine hard before they go home. I joke when my son brings homework from this history teacher, and say, “Oh, got some more mommy work, huh?” because that is exactly what it is. How does it go from age appropriate worksheets during class, to high school senior level shit to do at home with mom and dad? You can bet I’m pissed.
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mah mom
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Well, I know little children can get tired when they have to much homework, I mean, there’s not to overwork. But YOU ARE WRONG.
It’s homework and has to be done, I’m not saying kids should be killing their neurons on a essay, but they should do a little of the homework, then rest and work a little more. That way, they get a homework done and don’t stress.
What you are saying to her is: “Homework is not important, let’s play. Nothing matters except fun and eating cake”. You should hep her on the homework and then do the things you use to do with her. I would love to see your child in a couple years, being fired from every job she gets, because she prefers watching TV and get the job papers done. Hmmm…
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Evidently homework didn’t help you much, now did it? Not much critical thinking in your comment. Parents who are passionate about learning and discovery, who care deeply about their home life, who want to raise resilient, happy, well adjusted children, who don’t want to tussle with homework all evening because there are books to be read and walks to take and conversations to be had and daydreaming to indulge and novels to compose and pianos to tinker with and leggos to build and butterflies to study and baking to learn measurements and plays to attend and star gazing to plan will inevitably produce loser offspring who will predictably get fired from every job because they prefer watching television. Seriously?
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IDK Im alittle of both break from homework sounds good until friday and its incomplete the kids self esteem goes down why cause mom said no to homework now the teacher is not happy kid is not happy grades go down we are not happy so no matter done now or later it should be done by friday so a feeling of accomplishment at the end of the week and my kids teacher have them work toward some kind of reward from all to some to none and whos fault will it be parents encourage them remind them maybe not all of it at once part of it 2 hrs after school and the rest after dinner try different things christmas break right now but my first grade has reading log 4 nights aweek and once on the weekend talked to teacher 3 times a week it usually rhymes so sing it do sounds in loud and soft voices homework should be more on reminding the child what they learnt that day relax after school review before getting ready for bed like I said before idk the right answer sorry kids I love my kids more then my own life they know that I know for sure butttt on the real you hurt my children I will crush you like a bug and call the cops for them! dont fuck with mama BEAR thats all I got to say peace
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Im a mother of three, and nobody is saying to teach your children to be lazy or not listen to the teacher. I have two children both now in there twentys and one who is five, i do not agree with homework nor did i enforce it to my two elder ones. Both my eldest children have university degrees both of which were not made to do homework. Six hours a day is long enough at school and plenty of time for children to knuckle down and learn. Home is family time and a place to rest and recharge your batteries ready for the next day ahead. If a child is tired they wont concentrate and learning then quickly becomes stressful instead of fun. There is absolutley no proof that homework makes a child more brainy than the next or academicly more able. Schools are very quick to tell you not to take family holidays in there time but yet push there work they havent had time to do in class in ours. Children have to have time to play and be simply children, there is plenty of time when they get to high school to study and worry about what there going to do with there future. My eldest have done very well and i shall bring my youngest daughter up the same way.
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